|Posted by writing-experiment on January 18, 2013 at 5:05 AM|
Did you know that someone is abused every 15 seconds?
Abuse must be stopped and if you find yourself in an abusive relationship, please try and attend a Freedom programme. Womens' Aid run this course and there is the book 'Living With The Dominator' written by Pat Craven. Pat was/is a Probation Officer who worked for a number of years with abusers. She found there was a pattern to the abuse and wrote the book, which is used as a training programme. It explains the thought processes behind the abuser and shows you what to look out for, so you can avoid it happening again. It also shows you that YOU are not abnormal, it is NOT your fault. Pat Craven is a fantastic person and I attended the programme twice!!! Pat also discovered that abusers fell into categories, some overlapping, which helps pin point possible abusers. She also has a contrast person to look at, showing what people should be like.
Why twice? I was in shock the first time round to find out it wasn't just happening to me! Also the truth about the abuser can hurt at times - yes they do know what they are doing, even when they tell us differently. The second time round was to absorb the information more and learn further details missed first time around. It's nice to sit in a room with other women who have been through similar events and to talk freely for the first time without being judged or thought you are a liar and making things up.
Of course tears are also shed, but that is part of the healing process.
I will refer to Pat Craven a lot in the future and wish to thank her for all the hard work she has done to help release so many women from abuse.
Pat's book can be found on Amazon.co.uk